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A note to family

So I made mistake and left this blog address on my freelance writers résumé, I once used to possibly write on trans issues, and sent it to family who can now read this. While I freely admit leaving this address was a mistake I will not apologize for who I am or for the blog. I am bi-gender and it’s not going to change. I am much happier admitting it to myself and my friends around me. This blog helped me come to terms with myself and identity of my female self.  While I haven’t posted recently, because I am accepted by my friends in Portland, and no longer hide in the Internet shadows it’s still my voice and I am not going to be silent. As I have said to many you can accept this and be a loving ally I’ll embrace you. If you can only be negative then just don’t talk about it. I am still the same person you talked to for 44 years.

zoetica:

#tbt – all my fashion features in Coilhouse mag. 

What Makes a Wig Good for Ponytails?

ardawigs:

The question pops up more times than we could ever count: “Are Arda Wigs thick enough to put up in a ponytail?”

Here’s the rub: Yes, all of Arda’s wigs are pretty thick, so you can make a pretty thick ponytail out of any of them.

That’s not the problem. The problem is not showing the lace from the cap underneath and making the hair lay flat and nice.

Read More

(Source: arda-wigs.com)

trixiestixx:

More of this silver dress thanks to contentsofafaeriespocket

(Source: stormtrooperfashion)

bonniegrrl:

Bogart and Bacall

bonniegrrl:

Bogart and Bacall


"According to all existing Hollywood standards, my face was not photogenic. Embarrassment always made me have a one-sided smile and since I was constantly embarrassed in front of a camera, I constantly smiled in a one-sided manner. My hair, my clothes, my God! They hadn’t cared. It was as if they dared you to be good. No one bothered to help." 
Bette Davis about her first movie, Bad Sister.  (1931)

"According to all existing Hollywood standards, my face was not photogenic. Embarrassment always made me have a one-sided smile and since I was constantly embarrassed in front of a camera, I constantly smiled in a one-sided manner. My hair, my clothes, my God! They hadn’t cared. It was as if they dared you to be good. No one bothered to help."

Bette Davis about her first movie, Bad Sister.  (1931)

(Source: all-about-bette, via bonniegrrl)

I managed to get it all back in.  I either have to get a new suitcase or get better at Teteris.  I have several new wigs so new phots coming.  

I managed to get it all back in.  I either have to get a new suitcase or get better at Teteris.  I have several new wigs so new phots coming.  

vaginalfantasy:

Has to be my favorite since I started watching: Video Games, Dating Drag Queens, Cryptology and booze who could ask for more

Vampires & Booze! Watch the latest episode of #VaginalFantasy Book Club on Geek & Sundry! Hosts Felicia Day, Veronica Belmont, Bonnie Burton & Kiala Kazebee discuss “Guilty Pleasures” by Laurell K Hamilton! Plus let us know what YOU would name a vampire nightclub in the comments below! 

Watch episode here: Vaginal Fantasy #24: Guilty Pleasures

(via bonniegrrl)

The New Year is a Gift

kimboekbinder:

image

The New Year is a gift, a hint of possibilities, a whisper of a new, better version of myself.

There are so many things we can’t control in life, things that will make a year hard: death, illness, accidents, weather. But there are things you can influence, change, take charge of, and for…

bonniegrrl:

" Film has so much to do with perfection, and how differently you can feel about someone at the beginning of the film, and at the end of the film. ” Emma Thompson (x)

I love Emma!

(Source: damethompson)

This Tumbler, might focus a bit too much on me finding a style and not enough on the substantial issues like personality and ideals. I have dwelled on this for a bit. I naturally wanted to be cooler than I am, maybe classy with wine a sexy black dress or the flirty seductress. I just had to invent Tiffany and think about doing women like things and behave like one. Yet I realized something. I have always had a strong feminism personality thanks to my socialization by them.. All my closest friends have been women. I have done everything from playing Barbie to fighting for women’s rights all my life. Its second nature to me so I don’t think about it. Though I have to admit that the girl is a geeky soccer mom. For that I gave you these new Christmas pics

Mary Christmas and Happy New Years

Tiff

My latest dreams

 Last night, I had two dreams typifying my life as bi-gender. The first one, was a spy action thriller were I outsmarted those evil Soviet spies. Rack one up for the red white and blue. This is how I thought when I was about 14. The second dream had 14 year old me telling my mother that I liked to wear dresses. My mother took it in stride telling me to tell no one else. Later she went to tell my grandmother but gave up.

30 years later, and in the waking world, I have spent the last year telling all my good friends about Tiffany. Though I still hide from some of my conservative friends and family I am generally happy with my progress which this blog followed. Now that I am use to going out with friends I am not sure about this blog. I have dreamed bigger. I am thinking of starting a Wordpress blog to advocate for Bi-gender people and sharing Tiffany’ life. I am also thinking of moving this Tumbler to another address so I can use Tumbler as its meant to. What do you all think?

The world is a weird place when you walk the fence line between ideas and personalities. Am I insane? Or am I more sane than most? Does seeing everything make me blind or wise? Why every time I pack myself away in my suitcase I leave little reminders of myself? Freudian slip anyone?  

A Bi-Gender’s response to the Doctor Who’s up coming problems.

Over the last few months we fans of Doctor Who have once again been caught up in the two great debates of our love. First is the great answer what do we do when the Dr. Who is done with his 13th regeneration. Which by most counts ends with Peter Capaldi. The Second is newer and is brought about by a Western culture shift…more women enjoying Science Fiction and loving Dr. Who. They are now wanting to see a doctor that represents them and ask when do we get a woman Doctor. Being Bi-gender I like to have things both ways and to kill multi-birds with one stone.

What do we know of Galliferian society? Not that much but enough for my purposes. We know they have both sexes. This implies they are born as one sex or the other.. Which means Sex does matter. That they super intelligent boarding on god like powers. Thanks to the Eye of Harmony a rift in time they have all the power they need, and have their “13” generations. In general the Galliferian’s are conservative watchers— afraid of interfering in the universe and their God/Goddess like powers. They have many laws of time etc. Yet some Time Lords: the Master, Rassilon, Omega and Morbius, “The Valeyard” just to name the ones we know break all of these society norms. It are these exceptions that inform my answer to the questions.

MY IDEAS START HERE

Faced with known facts of Galifrerian society how can the Doctor continue to regenerate and can they change sex? I give you these answers. First Galiferian’s are born as one sex or another and live their 13 regenerations as that sex. At the end of the 13 they have two choices pass away or regenerate as the opposite sex. Faced with this radical option most Time Lords spend their last regenerations preparing for their future. This draws them back to Galifrey, puts their powers in check and in general makes them conservative in old age. With the exceptions of those mentioned in the last paragraph. But breaking these traditions just inflames their megalomania. They begin to see themselves as Gods/Goddess.

As anyone who Gender-Bends know the process of transitioning genders takes time, money, and lot of emotional energy to find your place in society. This could only be even greater if your physiology changes. Most therefor spend their 14th regeneration on Galifrey getting to know their new self and putting their memories in line with this new life. Some even have their minds wiped so as to start fresh. And what of the Doctor?

The Doctor as the Valeyard destroyed Galfiery to stop the Last Great Time War. He hasn’t found away to cheat the rules that we know of. So the 14th regeneration would result in a female Doctor who will face the difficulties of the gender switch. The series can either give them Doctor companions and have her run wild across the universes or they can home bound her on Earth.

I like the idea of an Earth bound Doctor for one regeneration. With Earth has her new home she could explore issues of Transitioning and Human Feminism. Yet, because she will be known to UNIT and Torchwood still fight off alliances or other strangeness This will give us time to get to know the new Doctor. Also since she cannot switch back to male we will grow accustomed to the female Doctor with each regeneration.

My first choice as a female Doctor would be the British Actress Cholë Sevingy. Her experience as the transgender hit man in Hit and Miss makes her familiar with the rough emotional times of this change, plus the hitman gives her insight into the adventurous, spy, problem solving character the Doctor would have to be to keep the show exciting. On and she is gorgeous, unforntuly she is not British :(

A while back I calculated how much I have spent on my female side.  Tiffany over three years has been both expensive and cheap.  Cheap because its cost me very little maybe 400 a year.  Expensive though because I don’t dress it very often.  That means she is almost a wast.  I am working on this issue. I am getting more secure in shopping.  Not just browsing but also just walking through malls.  I no longer feel the anxiety I would feel walking past wondering if I would ever express myself and I did.

A note to family

So I made mistake and left this blog address on my freelance writers résumé, I once used to possibly write on trans issues, and sent it to family who can now read this. While I freely admit leaving this address was a mistake I will not apologize for who I am or for the blog. I am bi-gender and it’s not going to change. I am much happier admitting it to myself and my friends around me. This blog helped me come to terms with myself and identity of my female self.  While I haven’t posted recently, because I am accepted by my friends in Portland, and no longer hide in the Internet shadows it’s still my voice and I am not going to be silent. As I have said to many you can accept this and be a loving ally I’ll embrace you. If you can only be negative then just don’t talk about it. I am still the same person you talked to for 44 years.

zoetica:

#tbt – all my fashion features in Coilhouse mag. 

What Makes a Wig Good for Ponytails?

ardawigs:

The question pops up more times than we could ever count: “Are Arda Wigs thick enough to put up in a ponytail?”

Here’s the rub: Yes, all of Arda’s wigs are pretty thick, so you can make a pretty thick ponytail out of any of them.

That’s not the problem. The problem is not showing the lace from the cap underneath and making the hair lay flat and nice.

Read More

(Source: arda-wigs.com)

trixiestixx:

More of this silver dress thanks to contentsofafaeriespocket

(Source: stormtrooperfashion)

bonniegrrl:

Bogart and Bacall

bonniegrrl:

Bogart and Bacall


"According to all existing Hollywood standards, my face was not photogenic. Embarrassment always made me have a one-sided smile and since I was constantly embarrassed in front of a camera, I constantly smiled in a one-sided manner. My hair, my clothes, my God! They hadn’t cared. It was as if they dared you to be good. No one bothered to help." 
Bette Davis about her first movie, Bad Sister.  (1931)

"According to all existing Hollywood standards, my face was not photogenic. Embarrassment always made me have a one-sided smile and since I was constantly embarrassed in front of a camera, I constantly smiled in a one-sided manner. My hair, my clothes, my God! They hadn’t cared. It was as if they dared you to be good. No one bothered to help."

Bette Davis about her first movie, Bad Sister.  (1931)

(Source: all-about-bette, via bonniegrrl)

I managed to get it all back in.  I either have to get a new suitcase or get better at Teteris.  I have several new wigs so new phots coming.  

I managed to get it all back in.  I either have to get a new suitcase or get better at Teteris.  I have several new wigs so new phots coming.  

vaginalfantasy:

Has to be my favorite since I started watching: Video Games, Dating Drag Queens, Cryptology and booze who could ask for more

Vampires & Booze! Watch the latest episode of #VaginalFantasy Book Club on Geek & Sundry! Hosts Felicia Day, Veronica Belmont, Bonnie Burton & Kiala Kazebee discuss “Guilty Pleasures” by Laurell K Hamilton! Plus let us know what YOU would name a vampire nightclub in the comments below! 

Watch episode here: Vaginal Fantasy #24: Guilty Pleasures

(via bonniegrrl)

The New Year is a Gift

kimboekbinder:

image

The New Year is a gift, a hint of possibilities, a whisper of a new, better version of myself.

There are so many things we can’t control in life, things that will make a year hard: death, illness, accidents, weather. But there are things you can influence, change, take charge of, and for…

bonniegrrl:

" Film has so much to do with perfection, and how differently you can feel about someone at the beginning of the film, and at the end of the film. ” Emma Thompson (x)

I love Emma!

(Source: damethompson)

This Tumbler, might focus a bit too much on me finding a style and not enough on the substantial issues like personality and ideals. I have dwelled on this for a bit. I naturally wanted to be cooler than I am, maybe classy with wine a sexy black dress or the flirty seductress. I just had to invent Tiffany and think about doing women like things and behave like one. Yet I realized something. I have always had a strong feminism personality thanks to my socialization by them.. All my closest friends have been women. I have done everything from playing Barbie to fighting for women’s rights all my life. Its second nature to me so I don’t think about it. Though I have to admit that the girl is a geeky soccer mom. For that I gave you these new Christmas pics

Mary Christmas and Happy New Years

Tiff

My latest dreams

 Last night, I had two dreams typifying my life as bi-gender. The first one, was a spy action thriller were I outsmarted those evil Soviet spies. Rack one up for the red white and blue. This is how I thought when I was about 14. The second dream had 14 year old me telling my mother that I liked to wear dresses. My mother took it in stride telling me to tell no one else. Later she went to tell my grandmother but gave up.

30 years later, and in the waking world, I have spent the last year telling all my good friends about Tiffany. Though I still hide from some of my conservative friends and family I am generally happy with my progress which this blog followed. Now that I am use to going out with friends I am not sure about this blog. I have dreamed bigger. I am thinking of starting a Wordpress blog to advocate for Bi-gender people and sharing Tiffany’ life. I am also thinking of moving this Tumbler to another address so I can use Tumbler as its meant to. What do you all think?

The world is a weird place when you walk the fence line between ideas and personalities. Am I insane? Or am I more sane than most? Does seeing everything make me blind or wise? Why every time I pack myself away in my suitcase I leave little reminders of myself? Freudian slip anyone?  

A Bi-Gender’s response to the Doctor Who’s up coming problems.

Over the last few months we fans of Doctor Who have once again been caught up in the two great debates of our love. First is the great answer what do we do when the Dr. Who is done with his 13th regeneration. Which by most counts ends with Peter Capaldi. The Second is newer and is brought about by a Western culture shift…more women enjoying Science Fiction and loving Dr. Who. They are now wanting to see a doctor that represents them and ask when do we get a woman Doctor. Being Bi-gender I like to have things both ways and to kill multi-birds with one stone.

What do we know of Galliferian society? Not that much but enough for my purposes. We know they have both sexes. This implies they are born as one sex or the other.. Which means Sex does matter. That they super intelligent boarding on god like powers. Thanks to the Eye of Harmony a rift in time they have all the power they need, and have their “13” generations. In general the Galliferian’s are conservative watchers— afraid of interfering in the universe and their God/Goddess like powers. They have many laws of time etc. Yet some Time Lords: the Master, Rassilon, Omega and Morbius, “The Valeyard” just to name the ones we know break all of these society norms. It are these exceptions that inform my answer to the questions.

MY IDEAS START HERE

Faced with known facts of Galifrerian society how can the Doctor continue to regenerate and can they change sex? I give you these answers. First Galiferian’s are born as one sex or another and live their 13 regenerations as that sex. At the end of the 13 they have two choices pass away or regenerate as the opposite sex. Faced with this radical option most Time Lords spend their last regenerations preparing for their future. This draws them back to Galifrey, puts their powers in check and in general makes them conservative in old age. With the exceptions of those mentioned in the last paragraph. But breaking these traditions just inflames their megalomania. They begin to see themselves as Gods/Goddess.

As anyone who Gender-Bends know the process of transitioning genders takes time, money, and lot of emotional energy to find your place in society. This could only be even greater if your physiology changes. Most therefor spend their 14th regeneration on Galifrey getting to know their new self and putting their memories in line with this new life. Some even have their minds wiped so as to start fresh. And what of the Doctor?

The Doctor as the Valeyard destroyed Galfiery to stop the Last Great Time War. He hasn’t found away to cheat the rules that we know of. So the 14th regeneration would result in a female Doctor who will face the difficulties of the gender switch. The series can either give them Doctor companions and have her run wild across the universes or they can home bound her on Earth.

I like the idea of an Earth bound Doctor for one regeneration. With Earth has her new home she could explore issues of Transitioning and Human Feminism. Yet, because she will be known to UNIT and Torchwood still fight off alliances or other strangeness This will give us time to get to know the new Doctor. Also since she cannot switch back to male we will grow accustomed to the female Doctor with each regeneration.

My first choice as a female Doctor would be the British Actress Cholë Sevingy. Her experience as the transgender hit man in Hit and Miss makes her familiar with the rough emotional times of this change, plus the hitman gives her insight into the adventurous, spy, problem solving character the Doctor would have to be to keep the show exciting. On and she is gorgeous, unforntuly she is not British :(

A while back I calculated how much I have spent on my female side.  Tiffany over three years has been both expensive and cheap.  Cheap because its cost me very little maybe 400 a year.  Expensive though because I don’t dress it very often.  That means she is almost a wast.  I am working on this issue. I am getting more secure in shopping.  Not just browsing but also just walking through malls.  I no longer feel the anxiety I would feel walking past wondering if I would ever express myself and I did.

A note to family
What Makes a Wig Good for Ponytails?
My latest dreams
A Bi-Gender’s response to the Doctor Who’s up coming problems.

About:

The story of Tiffany Gray's, a Bi-Gender, life and the world as she sees it.

As a writer, I have this urge to share my experiences as I grow into Tiffany's heels. However, this road is not liner. Often it is a story of two steps forward one or more steps back.

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